Dawn Walton, MSc.Psych,DipCHyp,MNLP,MBPsS

...how will you know when you get there?

I've always resisted goals because I don't deal well with failure and as a natural pessimist I assumed I would fail. 

But if you are taking a journey, do you work out where you are going or do you just walk out of the door and see where you end up? 

A goal is just a marker for where you are trying to get to. 

Sometimes journeys don't go to plan. I don't know about you but I find it very easy to take the wrong action in response to the instructions on my GPS in my car. 

Do I abandon my journey immediately given that I have now failed? No.

A new route is calculated and I follow it. 

Sometimes taking a different path than planned actually works out better

Sometimes your new route is shorter, or prettier. Indeed, I've often said that if you want to get to know an area the best thing to do is get lost there. A goal is just a marker for a place we want to get to.

We often learn more when the journey to that marker doesn't go as planned. 

And sometimes, the journey to that goal takes you to such an interesting place that you decided to change your goal to fit the new place. That's ok. There are no "Goal-police". 

In August I set myself a simple goal of getting my book into print so that people who didn't read books electronically would also have access to it. 

As it happens, the book is still going throught the process. That's ok. It's still a place I want to get to, even if it didn't happen when I wanted it to.

I also have a goal to get into size 12 jeans in time for my 40th birthday in October. So far I can put one of my pairs of jeans on and fasten them (without lying down!). They are still too tight to wear but I think this is a goal I may hit. We'll see. 

So what goals are you going to set yourself for September and beyond? Let me know. 

And if you need my help to unblock something that it getting in the way of your goals, I can help you with developing the map to get you there so drop me an email to dawn@thinkitchangeit.com and we'll see what we can do.